To take responsibility or defer responsibility, that is the question.
Those that refuse to change lanes, that is, people that don't make adjustments as circumstances change, build their own prison.
Its far easier for us to sit around flipping through pictures then getting off our butts and making things happen. Good memories are only made if we take the initiative and seize opportunities.
Sometimes you get blindsided by life, disrupting your action steps. Hence the saying, Man plans & God Laughs. Pivot to adjust to the changing environment.
When you're not the leader, you always have someone to lean on when times are tough. Once that leader is gone though, you've got big boots to fill. The process of filling them changes you.
With goal in heart, look to someone doing something similar but further along. Ask, is what they have and what it cost what I want.
If its your life, why let someone else set the pace for you?
During hard times, cut out the inessentials, and give more then you take.