The archive of my process of making a better me through seeing, experiencing, meeting and learning about the unfamiliar.
There’s a difference between being stupid and being stupid enough to try. The former is not thinking things through, while the latter is based on reasoning.
If you crave the compliments, you’ll feel a proportional amount of criticism.
We think things are stupid based on the information we have available, not what is necessarily true.
To take responsibility or defer responsibility, that is the question.
Those that refuse to change lanes, that is, people that don’t make adjustments as circumstances change, build their own prison.
Its far easier for us to sit around flipping through pictures then getting off our butts and making things happen. Good memories are only made if we take the initiative and seize opportunities.
Sometimes you get blindsided by life, disrupting your action steps. Hence the saying, Man plans & God Laughs. Pivot to adjust to the changing environment.
When you’re not the leader, you always have someone to lean on when times are tough. Once that leader is gone though, you’ve got big boots to fill. The process of filling them changes you.
With goal in heart, look to someone doing something similar but further along. Ask, is what they have and what it cost what I want.
If its your life, why let someone else set the pace for you?
During hard times, cut out the inessentials, and give more then you take.
I spent close to a year in Thailand, here are 8 thing I learned
Teddy Roosevelt once said, “The comparison is the thief of joy.”
Average is the refusal to try to make your situation better.
J is a colored man who felt held down by the white man. He is a victim that feels he has no control over his life.
Nostalgia, as in looking to the past and wondering “what if “is a dangerous thing. It’s living in the past, and we were designed to move forward.
There’s an old saying that goes, a manager tells people what to do and a leader shows them what to do. Break down the word “leader” and you get the word lead. Break it down further and for every leader you have followers. What does it mean to follow? It means to do the same … Continue reading “Last Boot on the Ground” Thoughts on Being a Leader: Kingston’s Journal #32
Teaching job is over, just need to finish up the grading and that’d be a wrap for being a school teacher. I think back to all the things I did for my kids out of love, care and concern. And how so much of it was unrecipricated. I won’t laundry list it as that would … Continue reading “What Turns a Heart Bitter” On Love and Indifference: Kingston’s Journal #31
Let’s talk about Rudy, he was a young man with big dreams. He may have been small in stature, but that didn’t deter him from playing college football. He spent years toiling, working harder than most to be a bench warmer on the team. Only in the last game of his college career did he … Continue reading “Rudy” Work Hard, In a Thoughtful Place: Kingston’s Journal #30
So yesterday I saw some of my M3 students likely for the last time. As I walked past, one of them called after me, “Mr. Kingston!” she said. I turned around, “good bye!” they called out as they waved farewell. Me, being more a man of letters and not so quick to think on my … Continue reading “I Loved You, But Not No More” Thoughts on Love: Kingston’s Journal #29
I started the term with high ideals for myself, I was going to emulate the best teacher I ever knew and make all my kids better students. “Great teachers inspire” I said to myself. A number of my students have improved, more have gotten worse, and the great majority have stayed more or less the … Continue reading “A Man’s Burden” On Taking Responsibility for Everything: Kingston’s Journal #28
Just because I only have a few weeks left as a schoolteacher doesn’t mean I have ceased rolling out new ideas in the classroom. I watched a Ted talk on how to be the most effective teacher. The speaker talked about how he did away with the traditional teacher is at the front lecture and … Continue reading “It’s About Being Remembered” A Lesson on Leaving a Legacy: Kingston’s Journal #27
Recently I watched an interesting Youtube video that was about the advice an older person would give to their 20 something self. He compared this life stage as akin to running a series of experiments to answer 3 questions rather then trying to get the most prestige or money. Those 3 questions are: 1. Who … Continue reading “Who Am I, What Matters, What Am I Good At” Kingston’s Journal #26
Once on the birth bed and once on the deathbed, both times we are helpless.
The first family is the hand you were dealt, the second is what you make of what you have.
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As this school year winds down to the final 4 weeks, I wanted to reflect on the things I like and didn’t like during my time here in Thailand. Pro: Firstly, the students are quite friendly, whenever they pass me in the hall, there’ll normally be some that greet me. Con: On the flip side, … Continue reading 5 Things I Like About Teaching In Thailand (and 3 I Don’t): Kingston’s Journal #23
Darn near 2 months ago, I talked about how I felt burnout from the monotony of teaching English in Thailand. I still feel that boredom and unhappiness. I’ve been trying to block out these feelings or numb it as an alcoholic would say, by doing things that are unconventional for a teacher: Weaponized Toothpicks Singing … Continue reading Persistence or a Waste of Time? Kingston’s Journal #22
Often there is a lot of talk about luck, specifically in life and career. How this person or that person became successful because of luck and circumstances. As I talked about in a previous post though, each choice that we make alters the next. Therefore, its not so much that luck determines our outcome, its … Continue reading The Harder You Work, The Luckier You Get: Kingston’s Journal #21
I got some interesting comments from one of the students at my school on my YouTube Channel. The details of it are irrelevant for the topic of this post, the point is, I’ve discovered I’m not fully mature yet. I was going to do something more impulsive, even when I had the entire weekend to … Continue reading Always Engage on Your Terms: Kingston’s Journal #20
I remember two and a half years ago when I was an accounting intern in Rome, NY. One of the supervisors was talking to me about how work at the federal government doesn’t pay the most, but its “comfortable.” At the time I was still dead set on being an accountant as a 21 year … Continue reading What is Comfortable Must Be Discarded: Kingston’s Journal #19
We all have choices that we make in life, some good, some bad. Our lives are a series of choices. For instance, the college you decided to go to determines your geographic location, your location in school decides where you begin building your professional network as well as work experience and more likely then not, … Continue reading Bad Decisions Define Us: Kingston’s Journal #18
About three weeks back I talked about how I felt stonewalled. I didn’t know what to do next after finishing my year teaching in Thailand. I knew I wanted to spend a few months learning how to farm in Latin America, but I wasn’t sure what comes next, and that problem befuddled me. After much … Continue reading Africa, The New American West: Kingston’s Journal #17
With all the different career paths I’ve been moving around in for the past year, it gets easy to forget my purpose with all these changes. As such I think its important to define what I want out of life. It may seem that bouncing from author to accountant to school teacher and then farmer … Continue reading All Roads Lead to Rome: Kingston’s Journal #16
One of the things I’ve discovered that I dislike the most is asking for permission. It is something that we are inherently conditioned to do when we were socialized as school children. We were told as kids when to stand and when to sit, if we could go to the restroom or not and when … Continue reading “Bend it ‘Till it Breaks”: Kingston’s Journal #15
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A couple of weeks ago, I finally worked up the courage (and realized I haven’t done this yet) to watch some old videos of my speech class I took in the spring of 2016. It was supposed to be my class assignment, but I never did it. Now having watched these videos and comparing them … Continue reading Becoming a Better Speaker: Kingston’s Journal #14
I’ve noticed a significant change in the attitude of my students as the school year has gone by. The shaky kneed me from May when I stood in front of my first class seems ages ago. Many mistakes were made, from the pace of my class being too fast to me unable to control my … Continue reading How to be a Respected Leader: Kingston’s Journal #13
I’ve noticed a gradual shift in my demeanor as this year has gone by. I started January of this year keeping to myself for the most part working on my second book which I have since shelved when when I have a draft. Besides sharing my book with my immediate family, no one knew what … Continue reading Only the Guilty Fear Judgement: Kingston’s Journal #12
I’ve come to realize now that I’ve been an accountant, author, English teacher and a field surveyor. All of these professions started out new and intriguing. Especially towards the beginning of the experiences everything seemed so fresh and that peaked my curiosity. One by one though, I began to lose my curiosity for all of … Continue reading How to Be the Best: Kingston’s Journal #11
Right now I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that I wasn’t feeling frustrated with my life. I’m turning 24 in less than 10 days and I still haven’t figured things out. Yes, I’m almost finished surveying 400 Bangkok university students and after I’m finished compiling the information I’m going to be asking professors if … Continue reading Getting Stonewalled: Kingston’s Journal #10
Planning out all aspects of your life just doesn’t work out when there are so many external factors that are beyond your control: Things that can change in forces of mother nature to man made disasters, the possibilities of things getting in our way is endless. Internal factors also play an important role though. New … Continue reading Always Know When to Pivot: Kingston’s Journal #9
I’m fairly happy with the progress I’ve made in Muay Thai training. My power kick feels good and has improved a lot. I’ve also lost some weight along the way. My reflexes have improved I feel and I’m able to do some basic reading of where and what type of attack is likely to occur … Continue reading What Mileage Does to the Body: Kingston’s Journal #8
“Who did I help, what did I learn.” I stumbled upon this little piece of advice yesterday on a YouTube video I watched last night about advice they would give to someone younger. I believe what you learn and who you help are interlinked as you cannot help anyone unless you know what you’re doing. … Continue reading How to Save a Life: Kingston’s Journal #7
Auditioning for a talent show yesterday was no big deal to me. The kung fu demo I did was something I’ve done hundreds of times before, sure I’m a bit rusty as its been a while, but still. What is important is auditioning is something I’ve never done before. When I was in high school … Continue reading Kingston’s Journal: How I’m Recapturing Lost Youth
Going up and down universities surveying students has been an interesting experience. A few weeks ago, I was reflecting on the past two years of my life and whether it was wise for me to work as an accountant when it was well within my comfort zone. Being a door to door salesman would have … Continue reading Kingston’s Journal: How to Develop Sales Skills
Unless I find a way to open up another angle in my stay here in Bangkok, there is not much more to be gained. What I’m looking to do though is lecture once in a University here in Thailand for the experience, bragging rights, and as another accolade on my personal portfolio. My plan is … Continue reading Kingston’s Journal: The Final Project
I came to Thailand because I felt my life was going into a rut back in Reno and I thought another year there would lead to the same old same old. So I began planning my escape 6 months in advance. I wanted to go to Thailand primarily to learn Muay Thai. And of course … Continue reading Kingston’s Journal: Why I’m in Thailand
Thanksgiving day alone, the first one lone. Honestly it feels like just another Thursday to me. This reminds me of a Rocky I quote, “It’s thanksgiving to you, Thursday to me.” As a young man, it don’t matter much to me, in 5 years though, things need to be figured out. I’ve been told that … Continue reading Kingston’s Journal: The Day of Giving
Quite honestly, I’m feeling burnt out from teaching these kids in Thailand. Not only are lessons feeling monotonous, but managing tweens has been giving me a real headache. I’ve been feeling a light headedness during afternoon classes like I’m about to pass out. Part of it I think is because I never really had the … Continue reading Kingston’s Journal: Down on One Knee