‘Pretend Not To Care’ Kingston’s Journey #134

Some Things Never Change

Times change, faces change, technology changes, but human nature remains a constant. We still have the same needs and demands as our ancestors did tens of thousands of years ago. We still need to eat, clothes on our backs and a roof over our heads. therefore, there are certain applicable types of wisdom that we can say is timeless.

To start off, we will always have enemies, or at the very least, people that want to hurt us or are unfriendly adversaries. Such individuals will want to pick out things that visually bother us, perhaps with the mind that doing so will give them an edge over us. And there will always be things that bother us, whether it be a visually apparent aspect of us (height, weight, complexion) or something about our past (childhood, profession). There will be someone that will want to jab at it.

So how do you hedge against it?

Treat Problems Like How You Would Treat A Dog

Well by pretending not to care. Think of a dog, an aggressive one, and you stare at it, it will take that as a challenge and begin barking at you (or worst), but if you ignore it, odds are the dog will leave you alone. Same with people, we have a lot of similarities with other mammals, whether you see us as being animals or not being irrelevant to this conversation. What is relevant is the point being not allowing things to look like they visually bother you and continue about your day as normal as possible, regardless of what is said or done (to a reasonable extent.)

Say for example that someone calls you short and it bothers you, laugh it off and continue what you are doing. Once it is perceived that these comments didn’t hurt you, people will lay off. It is only when there is a huge emotional reaction that people know they have pushed your buttons and keep pushing.

Don’t let them do that.

Kingston S. Lim

February 25, 2022

San Francisco, California

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