“Leave the Fool Be” Kingston’s Journey #103


Wisdom From Scripture

In the Book of Proverbs in the old Testament, there is a verse that goes:

“Rebuke a fool and he will hate you,

Rebuke a wise man and he will love you.”

-Proverbs 9:8

The truth often times is a bitter thing to hear people don’t want their lives disrupted by new (better) information that comes along. Things are going well is is they think to themselves, now with this information I’m confronted with the ugly reality that I may need to change, and it is you who is rebuking (criticizing) me that is confronting me with this inconvenience that threatens to disrupt my life.

Because that is the way people are, once we have a set way of doing things we like to keep it that way. It’s comfortable and we are creatures of habit. Now the person that rebukes is putting the other person on the spot and changing how things are done leads to a great deal of uncertainty and the average person will hat how their routine has been uprooted.

A Human Truth

Now the beauty of this small section of proverbs is that it speaks to human nature. That being that we don’t like to change, but not only that, change must occur from within, no one else can force that upon us.

This fool that Proverbs speaks on does not want to change, and you criticizing them only leads to them hating you. We are after all creatures of emotions, filled with fear, anger, sadness and insecurities. Any criticism, no matter how well intentioned, can be seen as a personal attack on how this individual lives and acts.

Such individuals are likely guilty of detrimental actions and they seek to hide from reality through lashing out at any judgement or rebuke. So really there is nothing to gain from trying to assist them in this way. Therefore, leave them be, smile and nod at their foolishness’, but remain silent, because ultimately, you can’t save them.

Of course Proverbs continues by saying that the wise will love you for your objective criticism. Scripture has a lot to saying that the wise will love you for your objective criticism. Scripture has a lot to say about wisdom so I’ll leave it at that so I’ll stay in the realm of the secular by ending with a quote.

“A smart man learns from his mistakes,

but a wise man learns from the mistakes of others.”

Kingston S. Lim

June 10, 2021

San Francisco, California


About Kingston’s Journey Series: Kingston’s Journey is a lifelong series. This is the travel journal I take with me. Whether you have questions such as how to change my life or how to travel the world, I think you’ll find value in the life lessons I’ve experienced and documented in this travel notebook. They may serve as travel inspiration for you. In Chinese, there is a saying, “讀萬卷書,不如行千里路.”

This means, instead of reading ten thousand books, why don’t you walk a thousand miles. This is my inspiration to travel every nation (or as many as possible) in my pursuit of my global MBA by learning as much as possible and recording these life lessons learned only by travel. In the end, I think the achievement of dreams, personal growth & aspirations out there through travel and adventure will lead to a more fulfilling life. Living and experiencing the “now” is how I’ll make my life a great memory in the future.

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