“On Truth & Criticism” Kingston’s Journey #87


The truth. The truth is good. It conveys facts and information that may be pertinent to the situation at hand. And I think few would argue against when I say that having the best information is needed to make the best decisions.

Flip that around though and you must ask yourself, do people in general make the best decisions? The answer is of course no, we don’t always make the best decisions. Part of it is because there is always this fog of war so to speak that curtails the availability of war so to speak that curtails the availability of the best decision-vital information. But besides the lacking in availability of the best facts, we as human beings are filled with emotions, irrationalities and insecurities that further hamper the decision making process.

Now these before mentioned human flaws so to say often entail that we reject reality. What this means is that you can tell people the truth and with the best of intentions, but they may not accept it.

And often when you are telling people the truth you are trying to help them. Let me give you an example. I once met a woman in her early 30’s that informed me she wanted to get married. I proceeded in advising her on how she needs to get it done soon, further elaborating that (the long and short of it anyways) a woman’s peak fertility years are in her 20’s and that is when men are biologically most attracted to females. I continued by advising her that aspects of her personality can be changed to better attract the best mate.

Imbecile (referring to myself of course)

That truth you are espousing is more oft then not percieved as criticism. What happeded with me is that my good intentions got me entangled in a nasty argument. Better to sit and listen then to get yourself embroiled in the confusing hearts of other people . This makes further sense when the point is made where the reality is that you can’t help them Think of it this way, would you take life altering advise from someone you just met and don’t fully trust?

You will only serve to antagonize people. So it is better to withhold the truth and let other people figure it out on their own. Because at the end of the day, one needs to look out for number one first.

Kingston S. Lim

January 27, 2021

Dar Es Salaam, Tanzania


About Kingston’s Journey Series: Kingston’s Journey is a lifelong series. This is the travel journal I take with me. Whether you have questions such as how to change my life or how to travel the world, I think you’ll find value in the life lessons I’ve experienced and documented in this travel notebook. They may serve as travel inspiration for you. In Chinese, there is a saying, “讀萬卷書,不如行千里路.”

This means, instead of reading ten thousand books, why don’t you walk a thousand miles. This is my inspiration to travel every nation (or as many as possible) in my pursuit of my global MBA by learning as much as possible and recording these life lessons learned only by travel. In the end, I think the achievement of dreams, personal growth & aspirations out there through travel and adventure will lead to a more fulfilling life. Living and experiencing the “now” is how I’ll make my life a great memory in the future.

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