“Milk Your Privileges” (Kingston’s Journey #58)

"Milk Your Privileges" (Kingston's Journey #58)

Leave Them Behind Or Die With Them?

Imagine you’re climbing up a mountain and it’s a difficult feat, as you climb it gets steeper and steeper. Eventually it’s near vertical. Luckily for you, you have a couple of pick axes in your pack you can use to continue scaling the mountain.

But you notice that the other people also trying to climb the mountain don’t have the gear to get it done. What do you do?

Do you throw away your gear and go along with what everyone else is doing? No, you continue climbing. It’s unfortunate that others are less prepared, but before you can be selfless and give, you need to be selfish and know. This is the logic flight operators use when telling people to put on their own oxygen masks first before helping their child. Your own person must be secure first before you’re able to help others, less you become a liability.

Its Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.

Take that same logic and apply it to goal centric analogies of climbing the ladder, on the path to success or climbing the pyramid. If along the way you happen to have an advantage that other people don’t, what is the logic behind not using it? So that no one’s situation improves and we all stay miserable?

A large part of it is because of a fear of judgment from others, of having an unfair advantage they don’t.

But that’s just the way life goes. We were not born exact carbon copies of one another. Some of us are tall, short, more intelligent, less intelligent, talented/not talented in a variety of skills.

Take What You Can Get

We don’t fault NBA players for utilizing their height to play basketball at a high level, why should it be different for any other advantage?

Often times life will do you no favors, you want to be an Olympic sprinter but you are wheelchair bound? Tough luck. But maybe you got brains, why not utilize it to your advantage and make something of yourself from it.

And who knows, maybe once you climb out of the bucket, you can reach down and help pull other people out. But you need to be willing to milk your privileges (use your advantages) first before your able to help others.

As for those crabs that want to break your legs so you can’t climb, it’s a byproduct of the way we were socialized. Think of it this way, everything we enjoy today, as in all the modern luxuries (cable, running water, internet) we take for granted came into being by a group of people setting aside their differences and working together to build something.

Even in individualistic countries, those societies were also built by people coming together. So if someone does something that is way out of line, the group pulls them back in. In other words, crabs in a bucket is a byproduct of our social construct.

But don’t think of it as you’re trying to destroy/undermine the collective and what it has built, think of it as you are creating something new by utilizing your privileges and others will fall in line.

For any great leap, someone needs to be first.

Kingston S. Lim

June 17, 2020

Tulum, Mexico

Before you can be selfless and give, you need to be selfish and know

About Kingston’s Journey Series: Kingston’s Journey is a lifelong series. This is the travel journal I take with me. Whether you have questions such as how to change my life or how to travel the world, I think you’ll find value in the life lessons I’ve experienced and documented in this travel notebook. They may serve as travel inspiration for you. In Chinese, there is a saying, “讀萬卷書,不如行千里路.”

This means, instead of reading ten thousand books, why don’t you walk a thousand miles. This is my inspiration to travel every nation (or as many as possible) in my pursuit of my global MBA by learning as much as possible and recording these life lessons learned only by travel. In the end, I think the achievement of dreams, personal growth & aspirations out there through travel and adventure will lead to a more fulfilling life. Living and experiencing the “now” is how I’ll make my life a great memory in the future.

13 thoughts on ““Milk Your Privileges” (Kingston’s Journey #58)

  1. Thank you for this post on a very much needed topic. There are many people out there who have sacrificed their potential because of misguided altruistic motives. Who knows what they might have accomplished in the service of mankind if they had developed their abilities?

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  2. Hmm 🤔… I don’t know… do you not reach a hand out to lift another up?

    Cause I find if I do that or others do… the rewards are so incredible together

    I do agree to reach up as much as possible, but I also have a heart to help others. I find that reward so much richer?


    1. Helping others is totally part of it. With the two examples mentioned, the one on the mountain, you can barely take care of yourself, so how can you help others. While on the plane, once you have your oxygen mask on, you are able to help others.

      It’s a matter of taking care of yourself, making use of your full potential first before you can help others in the most effective manner

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      1. I see what you are saying, you are correct. The “most effective” manner yes…

        You can’t carry someone else, if you yourself can’t stand. That is true.

        But also… if I am that last hand before someone falls over the edge- I’m gonna reach for them, regardless of where or how I stand.

        I have always reached out my hand to help others –

        But there has been a time, where I needed to be carried… some did that for me when they were not in any position to.

        If it was not for that humble human kindness in those moments? I could not have stood up. They were not in any position, but they did anyway… they kept me going when I didn’t think I could.

        So I suppose there are exceptions to every rule.


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